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Women - An Ode!

International Women's day! 8th March..

A day to make all the women feel special, thank the special ones for being a part of our lives.

So what is it, about us women, that hasn't been written earlier? Poets have dedicated verses about her beauty, singers have sung sonnets describing the effect she has on men, serials and movies are incomplete without her.

Sushmita Sen said, "That being a woman is a gift of God. The origin of a child is a Mother - is a woman and its a woman who shares love, who shows what sharing and caring is all about, that according to me is the essence of a woman"

True! we(We-Women) show what caring is all about - after all we take care of our parents and inlaws better than the men. We share - from our childhood, we start sharing toys, dolls, chocolates, etc..

We sacrifice - so much that some have even sacrificed their right to education, for their brothers, inspite of the fact, that the brother turns out to be a wayward, good for nothing, and maybe the sister would have done the family proud, if she had been rightfully given a chance, but, No, its not allowed to her, as she is supposed to sit at home, learn how to cook, how to clean - herself and her house, how to stitch, how to knit, so that one day she can be married off to some drunkard, abuser.
A MAN - his only claim to fame. The sacrificial woman, swallows her tears, hides her wounds, covers her body, after an emotional, physical ugly night. She smiles through her tears, when she is asked if she is happy.

Most of these women are working in our houses as maids, cleaning and scrubbing our floors. If you look carefully, their eyes tell a story, a story of pain, insult, disregard.

Cut to the current educated -corporate scenario. Is life any easy for the educated women? The answer is NO.

Cut throat competition does not exist based on merits and performance, its more a gender bias. "She is a woman, how can she run a company?" So what if she is capable of multitasking, she is a woman. Her gender becomes the deciding factor. Beating all odds, if she does manage to climb the ladder, then the egoistic men can't digest that fact, they then gossip, whoever said men don't gossip, didn't check facts. They link her with every top executive, so that they can satisfy their petty ego, nurse their rejections by talking trash.

Nobody realizes, how much a woman gives up, when she chooses to stay at home for her child and family.  From keeping the house spic n span, to serving delicious food, to bringing up a child, and giving a good time in the bed, its all taken for granted. The 'tired' man walks in, not bothering to ask how her day was? Why? Can't she have a bad day? Can't she be PMSing? Can't she be bored and tired of monotony? If the dinner is simple, then she is questioned not only questioned but also taunted - "What do you do the whole day anyway?" Is there an answer?

In our country, women don't feel safe. World's largest democracy where women can't walk freely, if she does, she is kidnapped and raped. The country laws need a change, the rapists should not get a lawyer to defend them. A woman on the road is not an available object, she is not your toy, you cannot touch her. Its wrong in every sense. Working women in  multinationals, students who dream of a successful career, have to work hard and sometimes stay late. You stop the rapists, not the women. Its easy to sit back and say, that dont step out after dark. Are we not living in a progressive world? What do you have to say about the teasing, molestation and rapes happening during the day time? Animals also have some dignity.

Cut to another scene. We have talked enough about the torture caused by men. What about the crimes inflicted by women?

Mother-in-law - is a woman. So why is it difficult for her to accept and welcome another woman in her house, family and heart? How can she ask for dowry or gifts from the girl's family? If you could not raise a son, who could be successful in showering gifts on you or standing up for himself financially, then shame on you. Simple.

If you think that your daughter in law is 'snatching' your 'bosom attached' son, don't get him married. Problem solved, he will be with you, be only yours, will only love you - undivided. Why complicate life by marrying him off? Rather, why spoil someone else's life by sharing the "apple of your eyes"? She can't do that also, as she needs a womb to carry on the family name.

International Women's day - We (Women in general) need to salute ourselves, we deserve this day.

We make way, so that our husbands or partners can carve their paths, not because, we can't.
We choose to whip up fancy meals, because its just expresses our love, not because its our duty.
We know what we are doing, where we are going, we still ask you only to include you in our journey.
We know how to care, how to love, still we ask to be cared for, so that you can use your strong arms to protect us.
We nurture a life for 9 months, and it doesn't end there. We still celebrate the man becoming a father, because its difficult for a man to nurture, we appreciate the fact, that you opened your heart, you shared your bed, your gadgets with a tiny life, because we know sharing and caring doesn't come to you naturally.

That is why we deserve to be appreciated, applauded, pampered and loved :)

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