Random nothings!

So this lil girl came running to her Mother, with excitement, as she stood tall with 2 silver medals and a bronze medal, at her school sports meet. The Mother, simply asked her, "Why did you not get the gold medal'?, This without a hug, a smile or an acknowledgement. The lil girl's face dropped immediately, and the excitement of winning just sank. Sadly, I witnessed the whole episode. And also was thoroughly confused, between encouraging and pushing. If the Mother had said, "Wow!! Well done!! Am so proud of you, next time make that little effort, and you might come first". That probably would have left the child happy and motivated to do better. Instead, she chose to just dampen the spirits of the child by totally dismissing her efforts.  The one thing that I remember telling my son was to participate, to test your own abilities. Not to win or lose. As that doesn't matter. Somebody has to lose, that is why somebody wins. And I explained further, t...

Some interactions jolt you out of your thought process, just when you are getting comfortable in your cocoon of thoughts.. My son goes to the park in our secured condo every evening, recently, I also went down, as the weather was good, which is quite a surprise in a city like Delhi (Gurgaon).  My son was playing, and I was just walking around, enjoying the breeze when I saw a lady, must be in her early forties, distributing candies to the children in the park, she walked up to me, and gave me also some candies, I thanked her and asked her what's the occasion?, She told me it was her son's birthday, I asked her to show me who the child was, while scanning a group of boys, so that I could wish him. She just smiled and pointed a finger towards the sky, and said, please wish him in your prayers, he is no more. I was shocked, not because, that this was the first time I had heard about a child's death, but this was the first time I had met a parent who had lost a child, ...

The weather was gloomy, or was it just her mood, Shreya couldn't decide. She finished her breakfast, gave her Pilates a miss, and then made her cup of tea, with lots of sugar, her instructor would have given her a "if looks could kill" looks, if she got to know that Shreya was adding empty calories to her body. In the figure department, Shreya didn't have to worry much, she still had her slim waistline in place, and by now was used to the "You don't look like a Mother of a 5 year old" line, and she always wondered, how does someone 'look' like a Mother? Brushing off these thoughts, she walked to the balcony with her cup tea, infused with ginger and pepper. She was just looking out in the horizon, when her nosy neighbour, Pallavi spotted her, from her balcony, "Hey! not taken bath yet? Howcome?", Shreya politely smiled, thinking why is she bothered about her bath? They lived in a upscale condo in Benson Town in Bangalore, they had bough...

Why do we always say, that we need a partner who is intelligent, caring, loving, someone who grew up with values, respectful, fun loving, loves to travel, helps around the house, blah blah blah? Why we never say that, we will be caring, loving, patient, respectful etc...etc... to them?? It's a perspective ;).. Perspective : If you don't give your child an ice cream cone fearing that he will spill and spoil his clothes, how will he ever learn?

Those of you who have watched FRIENDS can easily remember Monica Geller, the obsessive compulsive woman, who wants everything perfect, she is so crazy that she even remembers the exact position and the design of each fridge magnet. There is also a Thanksgiving episode, in which she takes out her fine China crockery, and keeps insisting that everybody eats carefully, and someone even calls her the 'crazy plate lady'.  While we laughed and enjoyed her craziness, if you look around, you will actually come across some weird Monicas, I have met many like that, and needless to say I have been amused. Just this morning, I was reading the newspaper, where the rain water found it's way into some houses, due to bad drainage system and water logging. There was a lady, who complained about her 'Persian rug' worth 20k, getting damaged, I was just about to sigh and empathize, when I read her next statement, which said, that she didn't even allow anyone to step on it wit...

So, the last few weeks have been busy, don't ask me what was I up to, as I seriously have no clue. My DH was traveling, was away for about 10 days, and I had to drop and pick up my son to and from school. That was a lil stressful, as the relaxed coffee-newspaper morning went for a toss. But, I chose to ignore all that, as I got a lot of 'ME' time - undisturbed! If I say I felt like a bird out of the cage, free to fly, you may say that am being dramatic, not that I feel caged in my house or my relationship, but sometimes you need that space to totally unwind, introspect and touch base with yourself. And that is exactly what I did. Plus, I also watched my favourite movies, back to back. I stayed up till 4 am and watched FRIENDS on youtube. I paused the videos, and made myself a cup of sweet adrak wali chai in the middle of the night. I finished reading a lot of books without having to make tea/coffee or just get up for something, In case you are wondering I caught up on my...

For the last few days, I open my blog, view it, read my friends posts and then sign out... There are so many thoughts crossing my mind, everyday, but am unable to pin it down. For example, this morning, in the Delhi metro, nobody offered their seat to an old woman, she even requested one young girl to get up, as she wasn't feeling too well, but the dame refused. Two minutes later, the old woman had a dizzy spell and fell, I couldn't help asking that dame, how would she have felt if her mother went through a similar situation? She obviously didn't have an answer, but that set me into a thinking mode, not to forget that I was totally upset with such a start to the day. But, come to think of it, what is happening to our society? What happened to values? Respect..Kindness...Compassion... Have people forgotten these words? What are we passing on to our children? Everyday, I get bogged down by such thoughts, because, even if I stick to my guns, and pass on the so called ...